First of all, dictating to your employer where you are or are not willing to be traded to with nothing in your contract that gives you that authority makes you a spoiled baby. Harming your team on the way out by limiting your trade value, makes you a apoiled baby. NFL players get traded every year amd don't have a say in where they are traded. So yes, throwing a hissyfit about which teams you want to play for makes him a spoiled baby. Which Romo isn't in my opinion.
As far as the contract it doesn't have to be restructed. Certainly not in the first year. Romo is scheduled to make 14 mil next year. Which is a low salary for an NFL starting QB. After that year depending on what happened his new NFL team may or may not want to restructure. If Romo has a monster season 22 mil might seem reasonable. But the NFL team again has all the leverage in the restructure. And they have the luxury of being able to cut him with no dead cap.
Sorry, I am right.