Sheik
DCC 4Life
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My bad, I thought you worked for a US based arm of the Chinese Communist Party.Huh?
I don’t absorb everything I read.
My bad, I thought you worked for a US based arm of the Chinese Communist Party.Huh?
Still doesn't make any sense.My bad, I thought you worked for a US based arm of the Chinese Communist Party.
I don’t absorb everything I read.
Hang in there, brother. Everyone on this board that has ever been in charge of people and had idiots above us, we understand your pain.I am sure many or most if not all of you have been a part of some sort of leadership role with your job.
So this is a question for you.
And those of you who have not, you have my envy.
Have you ever been in a situation where you literally wanted to just go apeshit (no no ki ki ma ma) and just tell everybody off and quit?
I came to that point today.
But somehow, I controlled myself and it was like in a millisecond.
This is a weird experience because besides my very fucking first job, I have never quit.
I just think sometimes a strong work ethic is a rarity that is taken advantage of.
Nevermind. I am venting.
Easy, man. No need to take it out on us.Still doesn't make any sense.
And to be quite honest Sheiky-babe, your posting quality has faded over the years.
Happens to us all.
You’re not telling me anything I don’t already know.Still doesn't make any sense.
And to be quite honest Sheiky-babe, your posting quality has faded over the years.
Happens to us all.
I am sure many or most if not all of you have been a part of some sort of leadership role with your job.
So this is a question for you.
And those of you who have not, you have my envy.
Have you ever been in a situation where you literally wanted to just go apeshit (no no ki ki ma ma) and just tell everybody off and quit?
I came to that point today.
But somehow, I controlled myself and it was like in a millisecond.
This is a weird experience because besides my very fucking first job, I have never quit.
I just think sometimes a strong work ethic is a rarity that is taken advantage of.
Nevermind. I am venting.
I am having a hard time since I have always had autonomy at my job most of my life...Mostly made it but sometimes given it.Hang in there, brother. Everyone on this board that has ever been in charge of people and had idiots above us, we understand your pain.
I almost quit a job of 20 years 6 months ago because of things coming down the pike. I was able to head off what was headed my way.
I'm not sure if you can do that, but hang in there, brother.
Touche.You’re not telling me anything I don’t already know.
Tell your wife before it goes from Abusive, to racist, to sexual harassment.As an owner I have questioned wth I am doing what I’m doing on many occasions. I truly do not enjoy leading most people. I find it extremely frustrating. I have been undergoing a rapid growth process for the last 4 years. It has caused a lot of unforeseen problems with personnel. I have recently hired an HR manager that I hope can solve some of my problems.
I am currently experiencing a really tough HR problem with one of my business development reps. She is extremely strong willed and challenges every damn thing. I put her in her place very strongly which was returned with more aggression. She told me I was abusive towards her and clearly an abusive husband and dad. It sort of threw me for a loop so I let the HR a manager know that I was accused of being abusive. That is a serious accusation to throw out. Our HR manager took her statement and gave her a chance to make the charges documented. In the meeting she questioned if I was racist (she’s meskin) which upped the game another level. She is clearly using buzz words in an attempt to gain more power in the situation. All of this has been taken as a threat to my financial well being. The HR a manager is extremely valuable to me in this situation.
The plan going forward is to focus job performance and go from there. My wife is largely uninvolved with the business but she is the president and 50% owner. If she found out there would be one hell of a situation on our hands. Me wife is sweet but she will destroy your damn life is you f with me or our family.
@boozeman what say you?
The blessing and curse of being a good leader. We often care too much, and we think before we react. I've been there too. Stop once you are calm and either pro/con it or plan what your next step would be if you moved on. I find job searching cathartic. Seeing what is out there can either inspire you or help you realize what you have.I am sure many or most if not all of you have been a part of some sort of leadership role with your job.
So this is a question for you.
And those of you who have not, you have my envy.
Have you ever been in a situation where you literally wanted to just go apeshit (no no ki ki ma ma) and just tell everybody off and quit?
I came to that point today.
But somehow, I controlled myself and it was like in a millisecond.
This is a weird experience because besides my very fucking first job, I have never quit.
I just think sometimes a strong work ethic is a rarity that is taken advantage of.
Nevermind. I am venting.
From an HR perspective, this is a slippery slope. Does the employee have any performance issues? You can do progressive discipline within weeks and terminate her if she doesn't show improvement. As long as your communication is clear and expectations are set it is hard for them to argue against it. You just have to be sure that you aren't treating her any different or holding her to a standard different than other employees in a similar situation. The personal attack towards you is unacceptable. Assuming this was witnessed by others, I would look into TX law specifically. You can terminate someone for defamation. Alternatively, you could offer a resignation with a small severance. Irreconcilable differences/ management incompatibility. How long has she been with the company? 1 week's pay for every 1-2 years of service may be a cheap solution.As an owner I have questioned why the hell I am doing what I’m doing on many occasions. I truly do not enjoy leading most people. I find it extremely frustrating. I have been undergoing a rapid growth process for the last 4 years. It has caused a lot of unforeseen problems with personnel. I have recently hired a HR manager that I hope can solve some of my problems.
I am currently experiencing a really tough HR problem with one of my business development reps. She is extremely strong willed and challenges every damn thing. I put her in her place very strongly which was returned with more aggression. She told me I was abusive towards her and clearly an abusive husband and dad. It sort of threw me for a loop so I let the HR a manager know that I was accused of being abusive. That is a serious accusation to throw out. Our HR manager took her statement and gave her a chance to make the charges documented. In the meeting she questioned if I was racist (she’s meskin) which upped the game another level. She is clearly using buzz words in an attempt to gain more power in the situation. All of this has been taken as a threat to my financial well being. The HR a manager is extremely valuable to me in this situation.
The plan going forward is to focus job performance and go from there. My wife is largely uninvolved with the business but she is the president and 50% owner. If she found out there would be one hell of a situation on our hands. Me wife is sweet but she will destroy your damn life is you f with me or our family.
@boozeman what say you?
I just did that very thing Monday morning. I have been working offshore for 27 years. Last Sunday, we got an email saying that we got yet another email saying we would be taking yet another pay cut. This would have been my fourth pay cut since 2015. Just so happened that I had a job offer from Georgia Pacific, so I called them and they immediately offered more pay than I was making along with exponentially better benefits. Didn't take me long to start writing my resignation.I am sure many or most if not all of you have been a part of some sort of leadership role with your job.
So this is a question for you.
And those of you who have not, you have my envy.
Have you ever been in a situation where you literally wanted to just go apeshit (no no ki ki ma ma) and just tell everybody off and quit?
I came to that point today.
But somehow, I controlled myself and it was like in a millisecond.
This is a weird experience because besides my very fucking first job, I have never quit.
I just think sometimes a strong work ethic is a rarity that is taken advantage of.
Nevermind. I am venting.
Yes, pretty frequently actually...but I do hate starting over.Have you ever been in a situation where you literally wanted to just go apeshit (no no ki ki ma ma) and just tell everybody off and quit?
Me too. I was at my last company for 14 years. lol always figured I was too old to be starting over, but my good nature only goes so far.Yes, pretty frequently actually...but I do hate starting over.
Well today was better. I actually scored a triumphant victory.
The incredibly stupid lout got a firm beatdown in a Zoom call. And I got personal props from the new AVP.
Is she fat? That's a condition now.Prove it, twat. This one will be fun. She has no health issues, nothing. Just that she has, again, issues at home.